Wednesday, July 24, 2013

IJ's 4th birthday party

IJ decided months ago that he wanted a dinosaur themed 4th birthday party.  With a vacation and open heart surgery scheduled just before his birthday I was worried about getting everything done.  We were able to pull it off by planning months ahead and working on things early.

The morning of his birthday and just before his party started.
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ZJ was also festively dressed.
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Goodie bags were filled with wind up dinos, dino puzzle or book depending on age, stretchy dinos, dino stamps, dino stickers and dino tattoos.
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As the kids arrived they played with our bamboo xylophone and had help getting dinosaur tattoos.
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Next they raced each other digging for fossils.
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Each kid got a dinosaur skeleton after the fossil hunt.
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Then everyone got a block of ice and had to bust 5 dinosaurs out of it.
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Next the big kids built dinosaur models and the littles had a dinosaur scroll taped to the wall to color.
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Lunch was dinosaur shaped sandwiches of jam and cream cheese, "dino bone salad" which was carrot, celery and jicama sticks in sunflower seed butter and fresh fruit.
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The birthday cake was the same one I've made for all of IJ's birthdays so far with a dinosaur emerging from an egg on top.  We made him a custom party hat to wear too.
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I think it went well and IJ had fun.  We had a "no gifts" party and I'm glad I made that decision.  The gifts were not missed and later that afternoon IJ opened gifts from family and close friends.

Sunday, July 21, 2013

IJ's 4 year pictures

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See last year's here.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

IJ is 4 years old!

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IJ now weighs 34 pounds and is 39 inches tall.  He's a little guy at the 18th percentile for height and 33rd for weight.  He is still in 3t clothes and size 8 shoe.

IJ finished preschool at the end of May and had a good year.  He really enjoys school, his teachers and friends.  We weren't planning on having him in summer camp at his school this year because at his age you have to pay for 5 days a week.  Then the school director approached me and offered for him to go free of charge, so he's there 9 am to 1 pm Monday through Friday.  At camp they swim daily with instructors, do arts and crafts, go to the gym, have music, judaics and more.  It is a bit chaotic and I prefer the calmness of the regular school year.  We are working at home to keep him learning since there isn't an educational focus at summer camp.  We've been working on his counting, writing numbers and letters, drawing and other mental tasks.  He will begin pre-K in August, his last year at this school.

IJ's interests are varied.  He still likes vehicles, playing in his construction sensory bin and his tool set.  He loves reading books and has so many things memorized.  He is getting into real (small) legos and can even build simple structures on his own from the directions.  He also still likes the large duplos.  He will now play independently quite well.  He knows he can't have little toys out while ZJ is awake so he is used to playing with those types of toys while she naps or alone with his door closed when she is awake.  Outside he likes to ride his bike (with training wheels) that he we were given in March.  He is now good on the regular swings and still enjoys the sand box and splash parks.  He loved playing on the beach or in the pool on our Florida vacation last month. 

IJ loves his sister and is rarely rough with her now.  They find ways to play together everywhere including the car.  He is affectionate with her and protective of her.  We were worried about him hurting her after her surgery but for the most part he has remembered to treat her extra gently.  He is showing maturity in his understanding that she is younger and should be treated differently.

IJ is doing great with his toilet use.  He probably doesn't need any reminders but I think he holds urine too long so I still ask him to go periodically during the day.  He can now stand to pee at home but seems to prefer sitting.  He does always stand now at school though.  He has no problems with pooping but oddly enough he still gets the urge to go mostly at meal time.  I find this odd because it's what newborns do, I'd think he would have grown out of it by now.   He uses the bathroom independently other than us turning the light on/off and wiping his butt.  He wets the bed at night very rarely.

IJ sleeps from about 7/7:30 pm to 6:30/7:30 am.  He undresses and dresses himself every night and morning.  We brush his teeth but he follows up with additional brushing.  I'd like him to be even more independent but he resists some tasks still.

IJ has not gone back to thumb sucking but did start touching his nose a lot and rubbing it with his stuffed dog or blanket.  He has cut back on that a lot and I'm ignoring it now instead of asking him to put his hand down like I was at its peak.

The entire year all IJ had were frequent colds until a few weeks ago when he had some strange 24 hour virus.  It made him extremely tired and he actually fell asleep on the couch which was basically his first nap in the house since we got rid of his crib over a year ago.  He had a fever that afternoon and through the night.  He slept late and seemed to feel better the next morning but was still sluggish for a bit.  He was back to normal and his appetite was back by mid day.

Here's his 4th year at a glance.  See last year here.
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Here are the pics from his 1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th birthdays.
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Saturday, July 13, 2013

ZJ is 21 months old!

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We started this month still in Florida on vacation, coming home a few days after ZJ turned 20 months old.  We then had a week to prepare for ZJ's open heart surgery.  She spent 4 hours at the hospital on June 18 for pre op and then went in early June 19 for her surgery.  She went into surgery at 8 am and was dome midday.  The surgery went well and her ASD was closed and mitral valve repaired.  She was discharged on June 23.  On the 28th she went back for a post op appointment for testing and to remove her stitches.  Her surgery was very stressful on her and she was very clingy to me upon returning home.  She is mostly back to herself but still a bit extra timid/fearful around others. 

ZJ's talking has exploded this month and we can't count words anymore.  She will attempt to say most words we work on with her, but on her own has incorporated so much into her vocabulary.  She's also stopped calling everyone "mama" and now always calls NJ "daddy" and me "mommy."  I'm assuming she switched from "mama" and "dada" because she's heard what IJ calls us.  It was surprising to me because we hadn't switched how we referred to each other in front of her.  She loves referring to us and will just yell out "mommy" and "daddy" frequently when she's with us, especially when NJ comes home from work. 

ZJ has become very good at puzzles.  She likes to color and will go to the craft cabinet and request it.  She's started fake smiling for pictures which is a very strained, unnatural smile.  She copies all arm motions she sees and it's quite funny to watch.  IJ can sit at the table across from her, making motions and ZJ will look like she's mirroring everything he does.  She's gotten right back into climbing everything, even though she's supposed to take it easy for 6 weeks while her breastbone heals.  She's even started climbing onto our bed from the floor.  Most impressive though, is her potty learning this month.  She came home from the hospital and within a few days we were back to our occasional putting her on the toilet.  For the first time she started consistently peeing while there.  She was peeing 1-2 times a day for several days, then had 4 in one day followed by 5 but the last 2 days I was busy with her brother's birthday party and prep along with her seeming to resist a bit so it dropped back down to 1 or 2 times.

Her appetite has increased and seems much more consistent now.  She's throwing less food on the floor but still definitely has her moments.  She's become very good at feeding herself with a spoon and has been using a fork too this month.

ZJ had no illnesses this month.  Her schedule has remained unchanged.  I still have to walk her in the stroller most nights.

Friday, July 12, 2013

ZJ's open heart surgery

ZJ's surgery was scheduled for Wednesday, June 19.  We were told she'd definitely need a blood transfusion and that I'd be able to donate for her since we have the same blood type.  The hospital required me to donate 3 days before, which was Father's Day.  I was freaked out about donating in general, thinking I'd be doing basic whole blood donation which would take about 15 minutes.  Once I got there I found out I had to be on an apheresis machine to collect platelets (more on that later) and that it could take 2 hours.  This machine requires you to have heparin put into your blood and basically cycles between taking out blood and putting blood components not needed for donation back in.  It ONLY took 48 minutes for me because my hemoglobin was high.

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This was my view while I gave blood...a pissed off ZJ who wasn't allowed to be with me.

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The day before surgery we had to be at the hospital from 8:00 am to 12:00 pm.  ZJ had an EKG, chest xray, her urine collected and blood drawn.  We also met with people from several hospital departments.

The evening before surgery we kept ZJ up very late and gave her a big snack since she wouldn't be able to breastfeed after 3:00 am or have any breakfast that morning.  She was cranky the next morning but exhausted.  She slept on me and in the car on the ride to the hospital.

We had to be at the hospital at 6:00 am.  In the pre op area ZJ donned her gown and just before they were ready to take her back she got a dose of Versed, which tastes horribly and pissed her off.  A few minutes later she became loopy and adorable, which was a pleasant way to see her go.  They carried her off to surgery at 8:05 am.

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We were then sent to the CVICU/Surgery waiting room and given a pager.  This area had recliners for family to sleep in since no one is allowed to sleep in the ICU, bathrooms, showers, a kitchen, seating areas and private pumping rooms (which I used because I wasn't allowed to breastfeed until ZJ was out of ICU).  We were told we would get paged every 90 minutes or so for updates.  We would then go into a private room and wait for the surgeon's nurse practitioner to come and update us. 

These were the updates we were given:

9:15 am:  ZJ was asleep, all her lines were in, she was doing well, the echo was done

11:00 am:  the surgeon had opened her sternum, her heart was stopped and she was on the bypass machine, she was doing well, the surgeon was assessing her malformations

12:30 pm:  the repair was complete, her heart was restarted and the bypass was stopped, the post op echo was done, the surgeon was going to close her incision

At 1:00 pm the surgeon came to discuss how everything went.  He explained how the mitral valve was repaired with stitches and her ASD was patched with her pericardium.  He was pleased with the outcome and would not expect her to need more surgery in the near future.

We were not able to go see her until 3:15 pm when we were finally sent to CVICU.  She was already extubated, on an antihypertensive, an inotrope and light sedation.  She was getting her own blood back from the cell saver and whole blood the bypass machine had been primed with (not my blood, since I only gave platelets).  She was on oxygen, and morphine as needed.  She had a chest tube to drain fluid, central line in her neck for drugs and fluid, IV in her foot, arterial line in her wrist for continuous blood pressure monitoring, and a catheter to measure urine output.  Both of her arms were restrained.

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From the time we got there she would regularly wake, grimace, silently cry and hold her breath. The silent crying was likely due to having been intubated. It took several hours for her voice to return. Her nurse was surprised by how long she would hold her breath every time she woke angry and would try to get her to breathe each time. We would try to comfort her by talking to her and rubbing her head, but would just have to wait for her to fall back asleep for her to be peaceful.

During the evening her supplemented oxygen was reduced so her mask was removed and a nasal canula was used instead. She only needed a little of the blood and never received any of mine. At this point we didn't understand why only platelets were taken from me when she only received whole blood and her own blood.

Most of the ICU had private rooms but at the very end there was space for 6 babies. It was the under 1 year section. The private rooms were full so we had to be in this more public area. We had no plans of leaving her alone at any point and even though everyone told us we weren't allowed to sleep in the ICU, our surgeon had told us we could.  Upon clarification we were told if we fell asleep in a chair we wouldn't be asked to leave, it's just that we couldn't take up any extra room. Once I saw the area and chairs, I knew I couldn't sleep there so we took the offer for a Ronald McDonald room which we were told were reserved for families the night of surgery. We split the night so I had the room from about 9:00 pm to 2:00 am and NJ had it from the time I got back to the ICU till 7:00 am. I did very little sleeping in my first "night" ever away from ZJ but at least I got a little and a shower too.

This is a diagram of her repair which was taped to the end of her bed.

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During the night both drugs were stopped.  She had longer periods of alertness on Thursday and more content/quiet moments, not just crying every time she woke.  But she still wouldn't really look at me, she seemed to look through me, and still slept a lot.  She had been on clear liquids after surgery and couldn't handle her straw cup so had her first ever baby bottles and nipples to suck down the tiny amounts of water she was allowed (about 1 oz per hour) and a few hours later, to drink the breastmilk I had pumped.  I was surprised that even while sedated and out of it, she would say "wawa" when she wanted to drink.  On Thursday she was allowed food and ate almost all of an applesauce cup I had brought from home.  She refused all other food the rest of the day and frequently refused fluids too.

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By midday they were running out of room in the ICU and were going to squeeze us in between two other babies.  Then suddenly the plan switched to sending us to the 16th floor, CV acute care, that afternoon.  I was very excited about this because on the 16th floor each room has a pull out bed for family and a private bathroom and shower.  In order to move she needed several of her lines pulled out.  They took out her catheter, removed the oxygen, took out the arterial line, moved her IV from her foot to her arm because it was no longer working and took the central line out.  They also disconnected her chest tube from a box that applied suction and measured the output and connected it to a little plastic bulb they called a "grenade" that was portable and would be dumped and measured every few hours.  While we waited to move we got to hold her for the first time, since she had to be switched from a full size bed to a crib for transport.

Around 3:00 pm, 24 hours after we got to see her in ICU, she was wheeled to the 16th floor.  Our ICU nurse advised me to take her out of the crib and put her in the full size bed already in the room so that I could sleep with her/breastfeed her.  As soon as we got in the room I laid her on the bed and let her breastfeed.  After that she seemed to finally acknowledge me and look at me.  I think she was mad at me before and was refusing to look at me.  We let the nurse know that I would be cobedding with ZJ and we had to sign a waiver to do so since she is under 2 years old.  The rest of our stay ZJ and I slept in the hospital bed and NJ slept on the couch/bed.

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The nurse removed her sternal dressing and cleaned the tape over her incision with betadine.  We then had to clean it with betadine twice a day until our post op appointment.  She also helped us get some of the adhesive off her body, clean her up a bit and dress her.

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We didn't realize that they no longer had her on a schedule to receive pain medications and during the evening she began to show signs of pain.  She was grunting and scratching her neck and chest.  We told the nurse she needed something and found out they don't have her medication, Hycet, on the unit and would have to order it.  It ended up taking 2 hours and 15 minutes to get her pain drugs.  The medication never came.  NJ had to find the resident who looked up ZJ's info and saw that she could have morphine, which was on the unit, so we had them give her that.  This was after she was in so much pain she fussed and passed out TWICE.  We were not happy and were wishing we were still getting the immediate care received in the ICU.  We also had them set up a schedule for the medication so it would be here when needed and this would not happen again.  After that she received Hycet every 6 hours at 3:00 and 9:00.  We were also concerned that she was refusing all food and drink so over night they set up an IV to give her fluids.

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When ZJ woke up Friday she seemed more alert but was still quite grumpy.  Here she is scowling at the pretty flowers Auntie S brought her the evening before.

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Every 4 hours her blood pressure, temperature and oxygenation was measured by the patient care assistant.  Every day in the hospital she had a chest xray in her room.  Every 6 hours she had her pain meds which she hated the taste of.  In between all of that there were physical therapists, cardiologists, residents and nurses coming in to her room.  She hated and was terrified of all of them, except the PCAs.  She learned quickly that nothing the PCAs did hurt her so she would sit and cooperate with them and even speak to them.   But for everyone else she would cling to me.  The first few days she couldn't move so her eyes would get big when her door opened and she would just wait, terrified to see who was coming.  After she was back to moving about she would get on me and smash herself into me.  She would yell "Mama" when anyone would come near.

When the cardiologists came by Friday morning they mentioned getting her up and out of bed.  I told them I thought I should wait until she was eating a bit but they said as long as she was drinking, which she was doing a little of at that point, that she was fine to move around and that it was good for her recovery.  So we got her dressed and let her walk for the first time.  She walked all the way to the other side of the unit where we checked out the toy room, picked up some toys to bring back to her room and she tried out every vehicle available and drove around a bit.  This seemed to brighten her spirits and from then on she seemed more like herself.

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On Saturday she was looking and acting much more like herself.  I was surprised at how quickly she got back to her usual nap and night schedule.  We did more walking and driving and switched out her toys.  For the most part the pain meds every 6 hours were covering her needs but we had a few incidents here and there when she displayed signs of pain and one time was pretty upset and scratched the skin off of her neck.  The surgical fellows, who also visited each day, took her chest tube out on Saturday.  She did not like this.  They gave her morphine, removed the tube and tightened the stitch.

We were told to expect a Monday discharge, knowing we needed an EKG and echo before we could go home and we probably couldn't do the echo on a Sunday.  But, her surgeon came by Saturday and thought she looked great.  He didn't want her sitting around all weekend if she didn't need to be here because of the risk of her getting sick.  He said he'd talk to the cardiologists and that he recommended we go home on Sunday.

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On Sunday she was doing so well we decided to hold off on the 9:00 am pain meds and start delaying them a few hours to see what she needed at that point.  She was very active and I was getting very antsy to get home where we could adequately entertain her.  She ate very little the entire hospital stay and might not eat something one day that she'd eaten the day before but she was drinking consistently.

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The cardiologists came by and said she would have an EKG and be discharged if it was normal.  We would just wait to do the echo till her post op visit the following Friday.  She freaked out when the person came to hook her up to the EKG machine but her nurse brought some little toys for her and she calmed down and forgot about the test.  We went home Sunday afternoon.  We have to be careful for 6 weeks while her breastbone heals.  We can't pick her up from under the arms and we need to try to keep her from climbing, pulling and falling.  We also will try to keep her healthy because even a regular cold could affect her lungs which are impacted from being on the bypass machine.

At home ZJ was extra clingy to me, which was to be expected, but other than that acting pretty normal.  We gave her pain meds each night and only occasionally during the day.  The last pain meds she had was during the night prior to her post op visit.

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On Friday we went to her post op appointment. 

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At this appointment she had an EKG, chest xray, echo and the tape and stitches removed.  They wanted to do a sedated echo but I told them prior to the appointment that I wouldn't be putting her through that.  I brought some brand new toys to try to entertain her through the echo but she was too freaked out to stay calm.  We got through it though and I'm glad we didn't sedate her.

Here she is just after the stitch removal.

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This is from the following Monday, July 1.

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Tuesday, July 2, 2013